Your Homework This Month--What NOT To Do First

I’m sure this is a scenario we can all relate to:

It has been a crazy, busy, tiring few weeks, and there is A LOT to do around your house that you haven’t had a minute (maybe not even a second) to get to.

The front hall is a mess, the sink is full of dishes, the laundry hamper is overflowing, and the piles of mail are teetering, threatening to topple and scatter all over the floor.  Maybe the refrigerator even smells.

What is the FIRST thing you do?

Now, be honest.

 Sure you could dive right in, tidy up, wash up & straighten ‘til things shine again. But I would be willing to bet you start somewhere else…

More often that not, it seems our first step when we are overwhelmed and tired is to start by criticizing ourselves –sometimes really maliciously--for not keeping on top of things, for not being perfect.


But this month, I am going to ask you to try something new.

For the next 30 days, I want you to check in with what you are saying to yourself, and stop dead in your tracks if you are being mean or judgmental.

Your homework for this month is to start with love.

When you start with negativity (and we often aren’t even aware that we are doing this) we are directing our energy towards what we DON’T want, and actually making things worse. We wouldn’t encourage a child by tearing her down, so why do we think this will help us to create a better outcome for ourselves?

SO, start with love--whatever the task.

If you feel upset or overwhelmed, take a deep breath and say out loud:

“I am starting with love.”

It IS the MOST powerful force in the universe, after all. :)

You will be fueled to get things done quickly, & peacefully and have energy for so much more as well.

In order for your home to be a place of caring and nurturing, it cannot be a yardstick by which you measure your worth or with which you flog yourself for not being perfect.

Easier said than done, I know.

Just remember—this month, start with love.